I’ve been reading “You are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life” by Jen Sincero. Holy cow this book is so real and so right! My sweet Chica Bonita sent me the book in the mail knowing I am a bada** just like her and needed to start acting like it! It has been such an eye and spirit opener that I had to share it with you!
Basically, I was letting the drama of family, work and life get me down. I was noticing a decline in my motivation and an increase in my excuses…sound familiar anyone? I was getting stuck on what I didn’t do instead of on what I did do! As I started to read the book I also started to see the philosophies I was teaching my little girls. The easiest way to teach your child is by doing (no matter how many times you say something it doesn’t matter as much as what you do, remember the phrase “You’re actions speak so loudly I can’t hear what you are saying)….they model everything we do, they’re supposed to, they are our children! I hate to break it to you but that means the good and the bad! I became aware of lack of confidence tendencies trickling their way out into the front room and I was not a fan! We’ve considered ourselves a positive family and somehow these little examples of “I can’t” or “I need” “Grrr, I don’t” were becoming more popular.
I took a good look at my own words and what I was saying in front of the girls. Oops! Reality set in…I was influencing these ideas. The frustrations I share with Adam about family and work in front of the girls were not going un-noticed. My over-exaggerated sighs when someone called that I didn’t want to talk to started to echo but with a much tinier voice. My grumbles as I looked in the mirror were more obvious than I thought.
In a nutshell I wasn’t seeing the “bada**ness” in myself and there wasn’t sharing that beauty with my family. I want our girls to grow up to be confident, strong, loving positive leaders in our society. The only way this will happen is me leading by example. I have to show them what that looks and sounds like in a woman! This has to be one of the greatest gifts, besides love, I could give my girls!
Adam has to be a “BadA**” Husband and father not just for his own good, but for our little girls’ futures! They build their beliefs on what is expected in a man by the example their father leads. How a woman should be treated is demonstrated by how their daddy treats their mama. So many reasons to be a “BadA**”, right!
So, are you a “BadA**”? Are you living the life you are meant to live? Are you happy? Do you love who you are? or Are you doubting yourself? Do you feel overwhelmed? Each and everyone of us has greatness in us and it affects the lovely individuals in our lives. If anything, I recommend reading this book and tapping into that hidden “BAdA**”!
